Yesterday was the sixth time I have gone to court and faced a Judge while standing by Punky's side since he turned eighteen. Sigh..
Six.
Sixfricking times.
I vowed to myself that when the time comes again, I will not be present in the court room.
Yes, I said "when" the time comes and believe me it's coming again.
It's not that I have lost all hope for Punky..Nope I still have hope that he can/will have a chance at recovery.
I have to live in the "now" and right now Punky is still getting high and drinking because that is the life he has chosen for himself.
The court convicted him of a full DUI.
He has to attend AA meetings twice a week for three months.
Punky was ordered to pay $1935.00 in fines, $162.00 every month until it is paid. (If he misses payments they will issue a warrant for his arrest)
He can not drive with a measurable amount of alcohol/drugs in system.
Punky must submit to any test at the request of a peace officer of alcohol/drugs in system.
He must violate no laws regarding driving a motor vehicle while under the influence or in the possession of alcohol, drugs or both. {This one will land Punky in jail for sure}
He also must attend a MADD victim Impact Panel.
He must attend and complete the First Conviction Program, a three month class.
Instead of paying the fines he had two options, Cal-Trans or jail.
If he choose Cal-Trans that would have meant that he would have to get up and report at 7:00 a.m for a total of 15 weekends.
He wanted to do the time (40 days) and had requested that he be given until Friday to report.
The Judge said "No, why would I give you until Friday? You are homeless and jobless, you have nothing better to do, its now or I let you go until you violate and then I will make sure you go to jail."
Punky decided to take his chances.
They let him go free, and that made him happy.
Except he has yet to understand that this will not go away on its own.
It stays on his "Permante Record" and will follow him until the court is satisfied.
Sometimes I feel like an expert of sorts, maybe I should write a book called "How To Raise a Complete Dumbass For A Son."
I have twenty three years of experience under my belt.
I stayed home while he was young and had a part time job on the weekends only to keep my sanity.
I volunteered in his classrooms three days a week for over six years.
I was a PTA president twice, at two different schools.
I knew all of his friends and their parents.
We had open lines of communication, all the time.
Blagh.Blagh.Blagh.
No I am not going to have a pity party here.
I am just saying I should write that book, or have someone else do it for me.
I could make millions of dollars.
I am looking forward to working in my garden today.I am starting a new book today, No Place Like Home by Mary Higgins Clark.
Ah, today will be a good day!
N Posted by Rain at 4/17/2006 10:47:00 PM
Hunky Monday
N Posted by Rain at 4/17/2006 12:28:00 AM
Sunday, April 16, 2006
Easter Weekend
Wow.
I had fun this weekend.
My next door neighbor's had a wedding and a reception in their backyard on Saturday.
The bride Lilly, looked beautiful and the groom Alex looked so handsome.
For music they had a seven member Mariachi band.
The food was traditional and delicious.
Tamales, tacos, rice, beans, carne asada...Yummy!
The Tequila, beer, and Champagne were flowing.
Lots of laughter and good cheer for all.
They even had a jumping Air Castle for the kids.
Rainman, Twin#1 and Twin#2 attended their first concert ever!
They went to see the Christian Rock band, Jedidiah.
Rainman came home with one of their hoodies...They ROCK!
Getting my house ready for Easter Sunday was a breeze.
It's amazing how fast time flies when you are having fun and everyone cooperates with each other.
I prepared a huge feast for twelve on Sunday.
Ham, chicken, hamburgers, hot dogs and lots of veggies...And sweets for the sweet.
This unfortunately is probably the last year I will do Easter baskets.
I know I say that every year and each year I give in and do it anyway.
The last three years have been a challenge trying to find age appropriate stuff to put in them.
There are not any kids to buy for...All of them (boys) are aged 16 years and up.
So this year I chose to buy toiletries and chocolate for all...I know it sounds strange, shut up L.F!
Rainman is running a slight temp. And has slept almost all day. I will probably keep him home from school in the morning.
I may end up having to make an evening appt..With his doctor.
I will be taking Punky to court in the morning at 9:00 am.
I hope everything works out for him, maybe he can get help he needs.
Unfortunately he does not believe he needs any help cause he doesn't think he has a problem with his drinking.
Who knows? He might figure out that he has a problem since he will have court ordered AA meetings.
Those meetings can't hurt him, right?
Geez, I am full of "maybes" and "if's" aren't I?
I guess that lands me right in the middle of wishful thinking, once again.
Every time I go there I end up disappointed and angry.
I just need to remember that this is not my fight and I have no control over the outcome.
Simply put "It is, what it is".
Have a great day!
N Posted by Rain at 4/16/2006 10:20:00 PM
